You know this is all YOUR fault, Don’t You!

Dictionary result for groupthink: “the practice of thinking or making decisions as a group in a way that discourages creativity or individual responsibility”

So now I have set the tone for this post, I want to expand it a bit

I am accusing the internet, especially Social Media to be the source behind this massive digital and GLOBAL “group think” that is increasingly poisoning our ability to relate to and connect with each other as living breathing human beings.

It gets WORSE: Most people manage themselves, their organizations and some of us our LIVES by Memes

This exists in ALL other communities, but let me address mine first!

• Black men LOVE pictures that paint us as Kings
• Black Woman LOVE pictures that paint themselves as Queens
• Both of us LOVE, Like and repost/re-tweet memes that show how it is the “other” who are the villains who have hurt, abused and disrespected us.
• Very few of us (or a dishearteningly low number) have the slightest concept of viewing the “other” as royalty, the meme world rejects that concept.

Now the war of words begins. It is not the mother of my child, it is “baby mamma”, it is not the father of my child, it is “baby daddy”.  Both hurtful and damaging terms that diminish, devalue and disrespect each other, you know, the one who is at “fault”. That also means that our children are born into a fight wherein they must pick a side based upon their gender and live their life carrying on the “Meme” war.

As a collective, we have found the solution and it is clear: It is THEIR fault! Accordingly, we compete with each other in escalating ways to prove who screwed over each other the worse!

With our solution in place and agreed upon by each group we can now wipe our hands from being individually or collectively responsible for the way things are. We will just wait until “they” act Right and once they do, everything will be just fine. Problem Solved!

To that I call a Major BS, in fact, if “they” did everything that “we” asked/wanted “them” to do “we” would still not be happy with “them”. Because the problem is not really with “them” at all, the problem is with “us”. (Ok: Take a deep breath and let that sink in).

So our solution is not really a solution, is it? In fact, our solution is the problem!

So what is the solution? The truth is that there isn’t one that fits all. We should start by having conversations with each other and trust that we are talking to a decent human being and not one of “them”.

Note: This is not just a “Black” issue, it exists among every ethnic group and it is getting worse and destroying any concept we have of “family”.

The meme war also exists amongst other tribes:

• Employer/Employee
• Coach/Player
• Democrat/Republican
• Liberal/Conservative
• North/South
• East/West
• My country/Your Country
• My Race/Your Race
• (etc,etc)

Each of these groups is waiting for “them” to act right so that the world can work. Lives are ruined and sometimes lost because we all refuse to see or been blinded NOT to see that problem is not “them”, or even “we” it is “Us”

Once we fathom that, then and ONLY then can we start to talk about solutions!

This is Not THE truth, but the truth the way I see it and hopefully can generate good conversations somewhere and everywhere and then, the world can begin to be a better place.