We all need to break the Didn’t/Anymore Rule

Foreword: Please know that I am not innocent of anything I accuse the world of doing, this ain’t judgement, this is reflection and I am working on myself on this.

I am saddened when people invoke the Didn’t/Anymore Rule. It is a rule we really need to break. Most of us do something stupid like this:

You didn’t say hello to me, so I am not going to speak to you anymore
You didn’t call me back, so I am not going to call you anymore
You didn’t respond to my text, so I am not going to text you anymore.
You stopped liking my posts, so I am not going to like yours anymore
And on and on and on and on!

We get so righteous because we think that lack of response has anything to do with US.

Consider that it does not have anything to do with US, it is about what is going on with THEM.

They may have had a trauma in their life
They may just be pulled in a million different directions right now
They may have something VERY important to do or place to be that needs their full attention and focus
They may actually have just not seen you (BTW: You do know it is possible for someone to be standing in front of you and not actually notice you…see the previous three as to why).

We keep modifying/ending friendships and other relationships because for the most part, we only think of US and not THEM.

In the grand scheme of life and for the most part, WE are just not the MOST important people in THEIR life.

Let me be clear: This is very different from not being important to them. We may just not be, or cannot be the focus of someone’s life…right now!

So…

Call back ANYWAY
Speak to people ANYWAY
Send that text ANYWAY
Like their posts ANYWAY

Not only is your soul pure because you did the right thing, but you also may have made a difference because they know that at least they have that one person that wants to be connected with them and is on their side.

Just doing that means a LOT to THEM, even if they don’t say anything to you about it.

You’ve done your part, you’ve made them aware you are still there. In time, you will get the time you need, but when THEY can give it, not just when YOU want it.

The only person for whom your whole world rotates around is YOU.

Stop being arrogant like it should be like that for anyone else.