Young Brother, You need to pass the Rope Test!

So: I guess this is the one where the title of the article does not really match the content, but in this case, it is a good thing.

So what is this “Rope Test” you ask?

Consider that this is a manhood test that any woman with any sense will need for you to pass before things can even start to get serious with you.

Picture yourself at the bottom of a two-story building, and you need/want to climb up to the roof. Then someone who seems cool throws you a rope.

Well, I am sure that before you begin your climb, you will need to know two things:

• Will this rope hold (is it strong enough)?
• Can it support my full climb (is it anchored properly)?

Just being someone “cool” sent it to you does mean it will support the climb, will it?

Well consider that when you are introducing yourself to that young lady you like, YOU are the one throwing them a rope.  

A sensible young lady will want to know a couple things at some point.

• Is your rope strong (are you capable of holding her up)?
• Will you support the full climb (will you be there when it counts)?

Since I know capability is there, let’s get to the second question: Supporting the climb and the key question is “Will You”

The ways that the “Will You” is tested is usually is pretty simple, somewhat annoying and usually asked in a question:

Here is a sample (and I know I am over making this overly simple): You over her place, it’s late and she says “I got to be at work early, can you go and put some gas in my car for me?”

Your response is very telling. (And assume that you have the time to do it and you both know that, and for the cheap brothers, assume she gave you the money for the gas)

Now: What do you think she is thinking about you when you:

• Say “No” and put on your coat to leave
• Ask in an angry or annoyed tone “Why didn’t you do this earlier?” and then say No

The point is this: Are you willing to support the climb? Are you willing to take on a simple task that may not be dangerous for you, but for her, it is?

If you can’t be trusted to help with that, then how then can you be trusted to run and get the milk/diapers, etc. for the baby when that is required? How can you be trusted to cut your boys loose and be there with her when she needs you to come help fix the tire late at night.

If she sees that you keep failing the little tests (your rope breaks or your anchor moves when pulled), then don’t be surprised when she moves on from you, because she knows your rope will fail when the big things come.

Now, let’s be clear: Doing all of this is NOT a guarantee that things will work out and, yes, some of those “rope tests” may just be seeing how much of a fool you are.

But just because one played you for the fool does not mean the next one will and also, if you give your heart to someone, you may be hurt, but protecting yourself from hurt also shields you from love.

Intentionally not passing the test the next one you like gives you is probably not the wisest course of action. Just as YOU are not like the one that came before: Neither is she!

Risking yourself is a requirement of being a man, and the truest test of manhood is your willingness to risk yourself for your woman/wife and for your family. The little rope tests demonstrate to her that you are willing and able to step up to the task at hand.

If you are not willing to do take on these “tests” and make those sacrifices for a woman (within reason of course), then please consider that you may not be worthy of being submitted to as the “man of the house” and respect her by being straight about it.

Bringing flowers and buying an expensive gift when you have failed the test 100 times means little to nothing to a woman or young lady who has some sense.

Bottom Line: Women are NOT conveniences or there just to serve you. Your willingness to be inconvenienced for her sake says a lot about whether or not she stays in there with you or will be there when you need her.

Please believe this: If you are trustworthy to a good women who is “all in” with you, the reward you get back will be way more than you ever thought possible.

What you will get back is worth putting on your coat to get her the gas and telling your boys “I gotta go” when she needs you.